Table of Contents

Title Page

Copyright

Perspective

Listening

Solitude

Significant Others

Happiness

Priorities

Relationships

Reactions

Advice

Truth

Change

Feelings

Souls

Responsibility

Communication

Respect

Worry

Language

Breathing

Giving

Pets

Battles

Frustration

Stress

Fear

Beliefs

Ability

Self-Love

Nourishment

Order

Calm

Goals

Learning

Responsibility

Gratitude

Tolerance

Stewing

Expectations

Talent

Silence

Wishing

Courage

Direction

Problems

Goals

Change

Vocation

Lightening Up

Burdens

Unconditional Love

Reflection

Dreams

The Past

Control

Focus

Mindset

Interpretation

Going Solo

Striving

Forgiveness

Lessons

Assumptions

Perspective

Self-Belief

Mondays

Pace

Standards

Moods

Anticipation

Struggle

Self-Reliance

Competition

Compassion

Knowing

Stress

Power

Reality

Self-Talk

Cheerfulness

Appreciation

Doing Your Best

Recognition

Energy

Laughter

Nutrition

Time Management

The Present

Non-Significant Others

Thoughts

Discontentment

Imagination

Intuition

Inhibitions

Courage

Internal Voice

Nature

Water

Success

Needs

Support

Listening

Answers

Writing

Exercise

Choice

Saying ‘No’

Breathing

Positivity

Appreciation

Pets

Energy

Irritability

Comparisons

An Open Mind

Giving

Out Of Sorts

Habits

Judgment

Giving Without Expectations

‘What If’

Communication

Problems

Reactions

Peace

Early Mornings

Potential

Self-Esteem

Receptivity

Christmas

Memories

Routine

Colour

Honesty

Dependence

Posture

Learning

Greener Grass

Strength

Comfort Zones

Self-Mastery

Faith

Appearance

Responsibility

Concentration

Intellect

Growth

Consequences

Perceptions

Joy

Love

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Perspective

Sometimes we react to things disproportionately to their importance. When something has just happened, it may be difficult to put it in perspective because our feelings seem very powerful. Yet we know from past experience that in a couple of days we’re unlikely to feel so strongly about it. To gain this perspective in the moment ask yourself, ‘Will this matter in a year’s/month’s/week’s time?’. It probably won’t, so why worry about it now?

Listening

When someone is talking to you, concentrate solely on what’s being said, rather than asking yourself ‘What’s in it for me?’ or ‘What does this mean for me?’. Such thoughts can detract from the relationships we have with others. At that point you’re simply there to listen. If you engage fully in listening to others, your relationships improve.

Solitude

To truly know ourselves we need to spend time alone. Many of us find solitude with no external stimulation boring because we are accustomed to filling our time with work, sport, watching TV or socialising. While these activities are important, we all need balance in our lives. Allow yourself quiet time alone to get to know who you really are.

Significant Others

Fostering meaningful relationships is one of the best ways to feed your soul. Most of us have meaningful relationships with only a few people because it takes time and effort to build and maintain close relationships. Think of these people as your ‘significant others’. Why worry what a ‘non-significant other’ thinks? Your time is precious, so be aware of how you use it.

Happiness

Rather than focusing on what makes you happy, think about what happiness is. Most of us imagine that happiness will come when we achieve certain goals. But happiness isn’t reliant on external factors – it is totally within us. We create our own happiness every moment by our attitude towards ourselves and the world around us. If you expect happiness to arrive when something else does, you will be very disappointed as it will always elude you. However, if you realise that you can create happiness, it has the potential to be with you always.


Priorities

Spend time today thinking about your life priorities. Are you supporting your priorities by the amount of time you’re allocating to them? Consider the following: family, health, happiness and money. Which of these is most important to you? If you didn’t put happiness first, you may be setting yourself up for the scenario ‘I’ll be happy when...’. Making happiness conditional upon achieving something means it can come and go depending on circumstances. Happiness is only dependent on how you choose to think at any given time. It is possible to be happy without one, two or even three of the above factors. If you make being happy your top priority, you’re more likely to achieve it.

Relationships

The best relationships exist when each partner allows the other to grow. This might mean spending time alone or participating in hobbies the other partner doesn’t share. If each partner is able to grow and develop as an individual then the relationship benefits enormously. When problems arise in a relationship, it’s very easy to run away by ending the relationship. Yet every issue that confronts us gives us an opportunity to learn about ourselves and others. If we run away, we learn very little. If we end the relationship without learning how to effectively resolve the problems, we may face the same problems in future relationships. Healthy relationships where problems arise and are resolved are very fulfilling.


Reactions

There are times when we find ourselves at the receiving end of someone’s anger or frustration, and we imagine they’re directing this emotion at us. The reality is that their reaction isn’t about us at all, but about them. If someone is angry about something you did, listen for any truths and take the lesson. But remember that their reaction is a reflection of themselves and there’s no need for you to take it personally.

Advice

Don’t be afraid to ask for and accept advice from others. We tend to see our own concerns from a limited perspective. Asking for advice means you’re willing to consider a new perspective, which will be more objective than your own. It may even provide a clarity that you’ve been unable to reach on your own.

Truth

Be true to yourself. Do things because you want to do them, not to please someone else. Sometimes being true to ourselves means standing up for something we believe in, or speaking up when previously we might have said nothing for fear of a negative reaction. We owe it to ourselves to be guided by our convictions.

Change

Accept that change is inevitable. We can choose either to accept change or resist it and suffer the consequences. Change provides us with many lessons and opportunities for growth. Even though we might be pushed out of our comfort zone and required to do something in a different way, this doesn’t mean that things will take a turn for the worse. The learning available to you as a result of change may improve your life. Have faith that things will turn out well.


Feelings

The feeling of being taken advantage of is powerful for some. It’s a feeling that someone has crossed our line of acceptable behaviour. As a result, we may feel negatively towards them, which may transform into guilt for us. If you find yourself in this situation, be honest about your feelings. The effects of not being honest with other people are far worse than the effect honesty has on them. A relationship might be saved by honesty, but without it the relationship is bound to suffer.

Souls